Many people find the divorce process emotional, costly, and complicated. You will make multiple decisions before finalizing your divorce. Your decisions during the divorce process determine its outcome. For example, the court may reduce your share of marital assets if it determines that you hid some of them.
Below are some tips to help you make good decisions during divorce.
Be Wary of Unsolicited Advice
Some people might come to you with unsolicited advice during your divorce. Say you confide in a friend about your frustrations in your divorce negotiations, and they advise you on what to do the next time you talk with your spouse. Just because your friend means well for you doesn't mean they are right. Don't use such pieces of advice to make divorce decisions.
Consult Your Lawyer
Consult your lawyer before making major decisions during the divorce. The lawyer will analyze the situation and advise you on how it may affect your divorce.
Say you want to move out of the marital home because you have found a better one in the same neighborhood. The move might trigger abandonment accusations from the other spouse or complicate your child custody quest. Your lawyer may advise you on what to do to minimize the consequences.
Understand Your Goals
You should know what you want to get out of the divorce before you start the process. Do you want to have your children's custody? Do you want a fair share of your assets? Do you want to keep the marital home? Do you want to co-parent with your former partner after the divorce?
Answer such questions to help you keep your eye on the price. For example, you are unlikely to antagonize your partner unnecessarily if you want to maintain good relations with them and co-parent after the divorce.
Take Your Time Before Reacting
Your partner might not necessarily have the same intentions as you. Maybe you want a peaceful or amicable separation, but your partner is angry or hurt and wants to lash out at you. This knowledge will help you avoid overreacting or reacting to your partner's antics without carefully considering the big picture.
Say you have joint temporary custody, but your partner overstays with the children one weekend. You might be tempted to get revenge in one way or another, but that will only escalate the take situation. Talk to your partner or consult your lawyer to reach a rational and legal solution to the problems. For more information, contact a divorce lawyer near you.