If you are raising a child together with a difficult parent, there are several ways they can frustrate your visitation with the child. Here are some of the tactics such difficult parents use.
Disagreeing On What Reasonable Means
In many cases, a child custody order doesn't list every single detail or aspects of the child's life. Rather, the custody order may only touch upon the major issues and leave the details to the parents. In these cases, the custody may generalize the details as "whatever is reasonable" to the parents. However, a difficult parent can use this generalization to frustrate visitation arrangements. For example, they can constantly disagree with you on what is reasonable – even if it's obvious.
Not Taking the Child to the Pick-Up Point
Another way in which a parent can frustrate visitation is by failing to show up at the agreed pick-up point. This can be particularly disruptive in the case of young children, such as toddlers, that cannot be exacted make it t the pickup point on their own.
Turning the Child against the Noncustodial Parent
There are also cases where the difficult parent may appear to be cooperating with the other parent but in reality, frustrating the other parent's visitation efforts in the background. An effective way in which they can do this is to poison the child against the other parent, for example, by making the child think the other parent doesn't love them. For example, a difficult parent may fail to take the child to the agreed pick-up point and then lie to the child that the other parent can't make it to the visitation on that day.
Coming Up with Constant Excuses
Another common tactic difficult parents use is to come up with excuses which, although look genuine, are just meant to frustrate the visitation efforts of the other parent. They may claim they are sick, they are busy with work or even feign illness on the part of the child. Be careful and investigate further if the other parent is always coming up with excuses that frustrate your visitation plans.
Constantly Ignoring Time Schedules
Lastly, a difficult parent can also frustrate visitation efforts is by not keeping time. For example, you may agree on a noon pickup time only for the parent to show up three hours later and after you are gone. In such a case, the parent is looking to set you up as the one who is frustrating visitations.
Consult a divorce law attorney to help you get legal redress for the frustration efforts of the other parent. The attorney may help you get law enforcement help to enforce the visitations or craft a more detailed visitation schedule.